Terrorists and bullies deal in fear to control the actions of others. To negotiate or give in to a person or organization that uses the threat of violence to get something is a losing proposition, i.e. either you do x or we will harm you (physically or emotionally).
Teachers and parents charged with teaching you and helping you become a person of character are generally not terrorists and bullies. Getting a bad grade or grounded if you refuse to meet your obligations is not bullying. Laws implemented to keep civil society operating and innocents safe is not terrorism or bullying.
Normal, peace loving people often find it hard to deal effectively with terrorists and bullies because they don’t know how to think in their terms. A normal person never considers violence an option to get what they want. However, when faced with someone who uses violence to get what they want, the normal person must be willing to meet violence with the authority of violence (police, military, governmental organizations, principal, parent, etc.) as a last resort.
Until you draw a line in the proverbial sand and refuse to let the bully cross it, they will control you and often harm many innocent people. The line implies that you will do whatever it takes to protect the territory (or people, including yourself) behind that line.
In reality, this is the most loving thing you can do for all involved, especially those who are innocent and cannot defend themselves. Every single person, you included, is looking for the boundary line, which answers the question, “At what point must I stop?”
Unless you decide upon and enforce lines, you cannot blame someone for harming you or others.
The reason this is so hard for some people is that deep down they are not sure of their own value, competency, and stamina. Unless you understand the principles of the one, true God – the God who covered your sins, has made an eternal provision for your soul, and is in control of your past, present, and future – you will be unable to confidently and effectively stand up to terrorists and bullies.
Will you draw the line, believing that God has your back?